if we put chris hemsworth, chris pratt, chris pine, and chris evans into a room together what would happen
Anonymous said: Hey Ivy, I have a question regarding safe words, especially after reading your last bit of "Halfway there." Do you think safe words always work/ should be the only way to stop a scene? I ask this because I get really REALLY spacey to the point sometimes I don't remember what I say. I've never played a scene as intense as the ones you're describing, but I worry that if I did, I wouldn't even be coherent enough to think of my safe word and say it. So what do you think is the line there?
So, safe words DON’T always work and shouldn’t be the only way to stop a scene. One reason that Flint and other partners (Sir, Daddy, etc) I’ve had ask me for my safe words during a scene is to make sure I’m still capable of using them.
Flint and I did a thing recently and I got kind of incoherent. He asked what my safe words were and I kind of provided a sort of jumbled “wub-wub-wuh” as an answer. So, he ended the scene because I wasn’t able to provide the safe words.
Another thing I’ve had partners, including Flint, do is ask me to repeat my words to them and then specifically ask after I’ve successfully provided them, “would you like to use one of them?” If I say one of them, they adjust accordingly. If I say a definitive “no, keep going,” they do. If I say anything along the lines of “I don’t know” or “I’m not sure,” they stop the scene. Because consent is that important and should never be ambiguous.
Because, why not? There’s suddenly quite a bit more of you and honesty is as good a procrastination method as anything else.
Direct your questions here.
Because she told me yes when I asked her if I should do this too, since we have basically the same reasons.
Don’t mind me, this is just my Portland bucket list
- Ride the tram! (the 18th!)
Find an easy trail and hike it with L and her dogs
Go to the coast
- Go to PAM/OMSI (no idea! maybe also the 18th!)
- Have a picnic with food from the farmer’s market (next Saturday!)
- Go to Ground Kontrol (?)
Go to a Timbers game
KEEP IT UP
DON’T LET UP
(went to a Timbers game. We fucking won. It’s been a good night.)